Nearby
Normandale, Alicetown, Avalon, Epuni, Hutt Central, Tirohanga, Harbour View, Maungaraki, Moera, Waterloo, Waiwhetu, Fairfield, East Harbour, Petone, Korokoro, Boulcott, Naenae, Belmont
Woburn news is brought to you by the team at The Hutt News
Recent posts
Thank you for using Neighbourly
Any seasoned counselor will tell you that even the happiest couples have problems. In fact, Dr. John Gottman, famous marriage researcher and author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, has identified four of the most typical areas of solvable marital conflict: technology, work stress, … View moreAny seasoned counselor will tell you that even the happiest couples have problems. In fact, Dr. John Gottman, famous marriage researcher and author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, has identified four of the most typical areas of solvable marital conflict: technology, work stress, money, and housework.
While something such as housework may seem like no big deal, there is emotional importance attached to these tasks that deepens our bond when they are accomplished. When these tasks are not accomplished, partners no longer feel like a safe haven for each other in the chaos of life—rather they make life for each other feel even more chaotic.
Disconnecting from distractions
Cultivating emotional connection and intimacy in the age of our attention economy has become a difficult task for couples. Take a moment and ask yourself: how much time do you think couples spend or should spent talking with each other?
In a research study on young couples in Los Angeles, the average amount of time partners engaged in face-to-face conversation was 35 minutes… a week!
Solution: If your lover is complaining that you’re more focused on your phone than your relationship, that’s an issue you need to take seriously, even if you don’t agree. The fastest solution is to sit down together and create a tech agreement.
This could be an agreement that both partners will not text, check email, or update their social profiles during specific times of the day or particular events, such as date night, mealtime, or when either of you needs to talk. It’s vital that this agreement feels fair to both of you.
Bringing work stress home
Many couples never think to discuss how they de-stress after work, but the way we handle—or don’t handle—work stress at the end of the day can cause unnecessary conflict.
Solution: Discuss your end-of-the-day routine with each other.
Money
One of the most common areas of conflicts in marriage is about money, how to spend it, and how to save for the things that truly matter. Whether your bank account is full or you’re just getting by, you are bound to have conflict over money since money is so symbolic of our emotional needs. Balancing the emotional realities of money can be work for any couple since our feelings about money are so personal.
Solution: Most arguments about money are not actually about money. So, go beneath the dollar value to understand what money means to each of you. Before budgeting take time to have a constructive conversation about money and discuss any financial gridlock issues. After that, take time to prioritize your spending and then lay out an action plan for financial freedom.
Housework
When couples don’t do their agreed-upon share of the housework, issues in all aspects of the relationship may be impacted. One partner is left feeling disrespected and unsupported, which leads to resentment and ultimately a less satisfying relationship.
Solution: Have a conversation about housework and split up chores so it feels fair to both partners. Create a list to determine who should do what. Use this list talk about how things are currently handled and how you would like them to be handled. Some items to include: car care, child care, finances, food, house cleaning, and house projects.
According to Dr. John Gottman, “Women find a man’s willingness to do housework extremely erotic.” When the man does his share to maintain the home, both partners report a more fulfilling sex life than in marriages where the wife believes her husband is not doing his share. How’s that for motivation to get off the couch?
We are selling dry aged beef which has been aged over 4 weeks۔ Nice flavor and beautiful smell۔ reasonably priced۔
Kiwi Halal Meats
The Kiwi day at the beach. It's what our summer memories are made of. It's an easy and fun way to spend a day in the sun - but is it still cheap?
We want to know what a day at the beach with the classics costs us.
First up: What do you pay for fish and chips? And what's the most … View moreThe Kiwi day at the beach. It's what our summer memories are made of. It's an easy and fun way to spend a day in the sun - but is it still cheap?
We want to know what a day at the beach with the classics costs us.
First up: What do you pay for fish and chips? And what's the most expensive takeaway fish and chips you have come across?
[Note, if you'd prefer we didn't quote you in our articles on Neighbourly or Stuff.co.nz, please mark your post "NQ"]
Our family farm has had a massive orange grown this year and we have so much oranges, grapefruits, mandarins and lemons we cant keep up with it all. So selling them for $3 a bag. In the supermarket you can get $4.50 for a kg.
In a bag you get 12 oranges which is about 2-2.5kg a bag. They … View moreOur family farm has had a massive orange grown this year and we have so much oranges, grapefruits, mandarins and lemons we cant keep up with it all. So selling them for $3 a bag. In the supermarket you can get $4.50 for a kg.
In a bag you get 12 oranges which is about 2-2.5kg a bag. They haven’t been sprayed with any fertilisers or pesticides. They have also been washed!
Bring a bag when pick up. I don’t have many plastic bags available.
Hi Neighbours,
As you drive around our beautiful country this summer, you'll see honesty stalls, selling everything from fruit and vegetables to pine cones, dotted along our highways.
Honesty stalls in rural NZ may be the "Kiwi way", but thieves are making it difficult to survive.
… View moreHi Neighbours,
As you drive around our beautiful country this summer, you'll see honesty stalls, selling everything from fruit and vegetables to pine cones, dotted along our highways.
Honesty stalls in rural NZ may be the "Kiwi way", but thieves are making it difficult to survive.
One grower-family was targeted with a spate of $100 per day thefts.
But out-of-pocket growers have pledged to continue; keeping the "Kiwi tradition" alive, in spite of thieves.
To read more, click here.
Do you make the most of honesty stalls when you're driving throughout New Zealand?
Is it a vespula wasp (German or common) or a paper wasp? Find out the difference here.
Once you know which type of wasp to target, the next step is to use the correct control method.
- For paper wasps, there are commercially available sprays at hardware stores around the country. The important … View moreIs it a vespula wasp (German or common) or a paper wasp? Find out the difference here.
Once you know which type of wasp to target, the next step is to use the correct control method.
- For paper wasps, there are commercially available sprays at hardware stores around the country. The important things to note are not to get too close (these sprays can go up to four metres), and to do it at dusk once the wasps have returned to their nests. If you are unsure where the nests are, you can usually follow the wasp to it, as they don't travel too far away.
- Vespex is a protein-based bait which is suitable for use on the vespula wasp species. This is usually done at landscape scale as a small tub of bait can cover a large area. You don't need to find the nests as the wasps carry the bait home with them. Vespex is not at all attractive to bees. If there is a problem in your area you can learn all about the use of vespex here. You will need to be an approved user - a short 10-minute video course is all that is required. Vespex is not suitable for paper wasps as they prefer live bait. You can also contribute to our fight against wasps here: givealittle.co.nz...
Jandals. The good old Kiwi flip flop. When the sun is blazing down, the rubber shoe can take you from the morning stroll to get a paper, the beach, and then on to a bar. But how pricey are these items getting - what did you pay back in the day, and what's the most expensive one you've … View moreJandals. The good old Kiwi flip flop. When the sun is blazing down, the rubber shoe can take you from the morning stroll to get a paper, the beach, and then on to a bar. But how pricey are these items getting - what did you pay back in the day, and what's the most expensive one you've seen in the beach boutiques nowadays?
We want to know what a day at the beach with the classics costs us.
So roll up, roll up ... there's nothing like licking a scoop of ice cream during the summer. How much do you pay at home, and when you are away? What is the most expensive ice cream you've bought on holiday?
[Note, if … View moreWe want to know what a day at the beach with the classics costs us.
So roll up, roll up ... there's nothing like licking a scoop of ice cream during the summer. How much do you pay at home, and when you are away? What is the most expensive ice cream you've bought on holiday?
[Note, if you'd prefer we didn't quote you in our articles on Neighbourly or Stuff, please mark your post "NQ"]
Make your 2019 New Years resolution to be prepared!
In the event of a major earthquake, the pipes underground that bring drinking water to, and take wastewater from your home, could be broken.
This means you will be relying on the stored water you have at home for at least the first seven days … View moreMake your 2019 New Years resolution to be prepared!
In the event of a major earthquake, the pipes underground that bring drinking water to, and take wastewater from your home, could be broken.
This means you will be relying on the stored water you have at home for at least the first seven days following an earthquake. And you'll need a plan for the safe disposal of your wastewater.
For more tips and information about how to get prepared visit www.wellingtonwater.co.nz...
© Neighbourly 2024
Loading…
