A growing trend that couples are just too tired for sex. How to revive your sex life!
There is a growing trend that most couples in long term relationships are too tired for sex.
There are many reasons for this, including physical and emotional stress from our ever increasing busy schedules, leaving less relationship and family time and our insatiable desire to be connected with others via technology.
While it’s quite common to have a reduced frequency in sex after a few years of being in a long term relationship, sex continuously plays an important part in any relationship.
Sex is important on many levels because:
It increases your self-esteem and overall well-being
It re-establishes your relationship bond very time you have sex.
It helps you to feel safe and secure.
It’s a natural mood enhancer and antidepressant
It allows you to relax, open up and confidentially trust your partner.
How you revive your sex life with your partner
There’s no rule on how often couples should be having sex. It’s about talking and working out together what’s going work for you both and your lifestyle.
Some couples are fine with once a week, others once a month and others need more frequent intimacy.
John Gottman PHD, famous couple’s researcher says “every positive thing you do in your relationship is foreplay”, so if you can be more aware and develop this mind-set, then this may help you prepare the ground for more opportunities for sex.
Attempt to go to bed at the same time and get out of bed at the same time, so you’re on the same schedule.
If you can’t go to bed together, go tuck in the other partner in- this is a good opportunity to increase connection.
Leave the technology out of the bedroom.
Schedule non-sexual touching, cuddling and talk about what’s going on in your life.
Do positive things for your partner without asking, so there is more time for the two of you.
Even when life is so busy and demanding, it’s really important to plan in ‘connection time’.
This very important connection time is often pre- cursor to having more sex, because it increases your connection and increases your sense of safety and care in the relationship.
Poll: Do you think NZ should ban social media for youth?
The Australian Prime Minister has expressed plans to ban social media use for children.
This would make it illegal for under 16-year-olds to have accounts on platforms including TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and X.
Social media platforms would be tasked with ensuring children have no access (under-age children and their parents wouldn’t be penalised for breaching the age limit)
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Do you think NZ should follow suit? Vote in our poll and share your thoughts below.
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85.5% Yes
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13.4% No
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1.1% Other - I'll share below
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scumbags
There are some really awful people around at the moment. This is what happened on Sunday.
We live in Hinemoa Street opposite the Waiwhetu Stream. At around 3.40 in the afternoon I was looking out my window and saw a car pull up and start to feed the geese and ducks out the window. Then The passenger an asian man jumped out and threw himself onto a goose. he picked it up and put it the boot of the car.
I immediately ran over and stood in front of his car to stop him moving I also called my husband to help. A lovely man was riding his bike and saw it and stopped to help me. The driver tried to drive into me but I didnt move. He tried telling us it was his pet. These are wild geese.
They had a cage in the boot and some wire all ready to catch the poor bird like they have done it before. My husband took the bird from the car and released it. I then moved out of the way and after lots of abuse from the driver they drove off threatening to come back and get more.
No one should be allowed to take these beautiful birds and certainly not like this. they are all starting to have wee babies at the moment the whole thing was so upsetting to me. Another neighbour further down the road also saw it all happen.
Please keep a look out for this car and if you see them by the stream go over and watch them lets all stop this happening.
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