The good news is you can get your need for security, predictability, and familiarity MET...without sacrificing love and connection!
Our need for security is a core human need.
However, when we prioritize security at the *expense* of love and connection...our lives, our relationships increasingly revolve around what I call the "S-Cubed State": struggle, suffering, and sacrifice. It never ends well.
The good news is you can get your need for security, predictability, and familiarity MET...without sacrificing love and connection!
The first step is to *notice* where you're putting security ABOVE connection - e.g. we will sometimes avoid encounters with new people or even people that we love because we want to avoid the potential discomfort of judgment, conflict, or rejection.
But if we organize our lives this way, they get *smaller* and more contracted. At best, this is a temporary coping mechanism if we are burnt out from, say, a long-standing Relationship conflict.
However, like all coping mechanisms, avoiding connection in order to feel secure can only provide temporary relief.
If you would like to talk about some of your relationship challenges then please-Call on 021 26 89 842 for a free 15 minute phone consultation.
Poll: When should the tree go up? 🎄
From what we've heard, some Christmas trees are already being assembled and decorated.
What are your thoughts on the best time to get your Christmas tree up?
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3.6% Second half of November
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32.9% 1st December
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23.6% A week before Christmas
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37.1% Whenever you wish
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2.9% Other - I'll share below
Riddle Me This, Neighbours! Bet You Can’t Guess It!
Sometimes narrow, sometimes wide, wind or rain, I stay outside.
Even if there’s heat or snow, from house to house I will still go.
What am I?
Do you think you know the answer to our daily riddle? Don't spoil it for your neighbours! Simply 'Like' this post and we'll post the answer in the comments below at 2pm.
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Poll: Do you think NZ should ban social media for youth?
The Australian Prime Minister has expressed plans to ban social media use for children.
This would make it illegal for under 16-year-olds to have accounts on platforms including TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and X.
Social media platforms would be tasked with ensuring children have no access (under-age children and their parents wouldn’t be penalised for breaching the age limit)
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Do you think NZ should follow suit? Vote in our poll and share your thoughts below.
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85.3% Yes
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13.7% No
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1% Other - I'll share below
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