Say what you need
To avoid criticism and blame in your relationship, talk about your feelings using I statements ("I feel...") and express a positive need ("I need...").
This means saying what you need, not what you don't need.
I need you to support me.
I don't need you to tell me what to do.
Hear the difference?
People don’t usually think about what they need when they're upset. Instead, they think about what their partner should stop doing wrong.
Within every negative feeling there is a longing, a wish, and, because of that, there is a recipe for success. The positive need is about highlighting ways in which your partner can shine for you.
The question of the day:
What is one thing you need right now in your relationship?
Poll: Do you think NZ should ban social media for youth?
The Australian Prime Minister has expressed plans to ban social media use for children.
This would make it illegal for under 16-year-olds to have accounts on platforms including TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and X.
Social media platforms would be tasked with ensuring children have no access (under-age children and their parents wouldn’t be penalised for breaching the age limit)
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Do you think NZ should follow suit? Vote in our poll and share your thoughts below.
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85.5% Yes
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13.3% No
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1.1% Other - I'll share below
What's your favourite recipe for courgettes?
Kia ora neighbours. If you've got a family recipe for courgettes, we'd love to see it and maybe publish it in our magazine. Send your recipe to mailbox@nzgardener.co.nz, and if we use it in the mag, you will receive a free copy of our January 2025 issue.
Railing planters
To gain extra growing space, make and hang these easy-to-build planters on almost any wooden fence or deck railing. Use Resene FX Blackboard Paint so you can easily identify what plants are in each. Find out how to create your own with these easy step by step instructions.
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