Yield to win!
One of the biggest mistakes people make in marriage is trying to "win" disagreements and arguments with their spouse.
When it comes to relationships, if one partner is “winning,” then both partners are losing.
That's why it's important to accept your partner's influence.
We encourage couples to adopt the Aikido principle of "yield to win."
The next time your spouse makes a complaint, think about it as their way of communicating how important the issue is to them - not as an attack on you. Then, instead of getting defensive, identify the reasonable part of their request, and yield to win.
Letting your partner influence you is one of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr John Gottman.
By identifying and empathizing with your partner's point of view, you are more likely to find a solution that honors both of you.
That's a win/win.
Question of the day: What is one topic you are not accepting influence from your partner on
Poll: Do you think NZ should ban social media for youth?
The Australian Prime Minister has expressed plans to ban social media use for children.
This would make it illegal for under 16-year-olds to have accounts on platforms including TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and X.
Social media platforms would be tasked with ensuring children have no access (under-age children and their parents wouldn’t be penalised for breaching the age limit)
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Do you think NZ should follow suit? Vote in our poll and share your thoughts below.
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85.1% Yes
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13.8% No
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1.1% Other - I'll share below
What's your favourite recipe for courgettes?
Kia ora neighbours. If you've got a family recipe for courgettes, we'd love to see it and maybe publish it in our magazine. Send your recipe to mailbox@nzgardener.co.nz, and if we use it in the mag, you will receive a free copy of our January 2025 issue.
Railing planters
To gain extra growing space, make and hang these easy-to-build planters on almost any wooden fence or deck railing. Use Resene FX Blackboard Paint so you can easily identify what plants are in each. Find out how to create your own with these easy step by step instructions.
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