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Both coffee and controversy is brewing in wider Wellington region at the moment on the topic of prams in cafes.
A cafe in Petone doesn't allow buggies and prams in the cafe when two designated areas up front by the window are full. This is due to space and safety reasons. … View moreHi neighbours,
Both coffee and controversy is brewing in wider Wellington region at the moment on the topic of prams in cafes.
A cafe in Petone doesn't allow buggies and prams in the cafe when two designated areas up front by the window are full. This is due to space and safety reasons. However, some mums have hit out saying it isn't "child friendly". Other cafes have now chimed into the debate. We want to know your thoughts on the topic.
Are you a mum with a pram that's been turned away from a cafe? Or perhaps you're a business owner that struggles to fit prams on the premise. Perhaps you're a customer with an opinion to share. Let us know your thoughts in the replies! (Please add "NFP/not for print" if you do not want your images/comments used on Stuff)
Wellington Water will be repairing water pipes on the Esplanade on Saturday 11 August, between approximately 7am and midday.
The work will be in the Oriental Street area and will affect Esplanade traffic travelling in the eastbound lane only.
A detour will be in place for eastbound traffic, … View moreWellington Water will be repairing water pipes on the Esplanade on Saturday 11 August, between approximately 7am and midday.
The work will be in the Oriental Street area and will affect Esplanade traffic travelling in the eastbound lane only.
A detour will be in place for eastbound traffic, turning into Cuba Street, then into Jackson Street and heading south back to The Esplanade via Jessie Street.
Council advises significant delays are likely and recommends drivers use alternative routes where possible.
Womans size 12-XXL + accessories.This Sat 11th & Sun 12th August 10am - 4pm..7 KERKWALL DRIVE NAENAE {Please park on road}..Can call 0224328569 for other open times.
The world of dating can feel daunting and difficult for many. You are not alone if you are out in the dating world and are experiencing doubt, frustration, or disappointment at not finding the right partner for you. Or, perhaps you are single and have not taken the leap back into the dating world.
… View moreThe world of dating can feel daunting and difficult for many. You are not alone if you are out in the dating world and are experiencing doubt, frustration, or disappointment at not finding the right partner for you. Or, perhaps you are single and have not taken the leap back into the dating world.
In collaboration with The Gottman Institute, I have created a new workshop called The Seven Principles for Singles, which is focused on helping single people gain the knowledge and skills they need to succeed in healthy relationships. The workshop is based on concepts presented in Dr. John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, but we apply those same principles to the realm of searching for a partner, dating, and forming a new relationship built on mutual trust, understanding, and support.
The information and research in this article are focused on the dating portion of the workshop, and I hope that, by the time you finish reading this, you will feel a bit more equipped and perhaps even motivated to give dating another shot.
How do people meet?
A study from University of Chicago psychologist John Cacioppo that tracked how couples met and their marital outcomes between 2005 through 2012 found that 34.95% met online, 14% met at work, and 12% met through friends. While dating sites and apps are popular and can lead to successful relationships, they also have their limitations.
One problem with matching sites where you can browse at will is having too many options. For example, Columbia professor Sheena Iyengar conducted experiments that revealed an excess of options can induce indecision and paralysis in decision making. Her experiment involved jam samples at a grocery store. When they offered 6 types of jam as opposed to 24 types, people were 10 times as likely to actually buy jam with the smaller sample number.
One other issue is that when you are scrolling and swiping through dating profiles and comparing people side by side, you can get into “joint evaluation” mode as opposed to “separate evaluation” mode, which allows you to evaluate something on its own. Joint evaluation mode tends to make people treat the potential partners they are viewing as products to be compared and consumed rather than people to get to know and date.
People do still meet in traditional ways: at work, through friends, in your neighborhood, or at church or a special interest group. But no matter how you meet your potential mate, dating is a necessary piece.
Do those dating sites actually work?
Social psychologist Eli Finkel spent a great deal of time studying if dating sites actually do what they claim, especially those that say they can predict ahead of time whether two people will be good romantic partners. In his article titled “Online Dating: A Critical Analysis From the Perspective of Psychological Science,” he states that “there is little reason to believe that the current compatibility algorithms are especially effective. Online dating functions best to the degree that it introduces people to potential partners that they would have been unlikely to encounter otherwise.”
Matching sites focus on either similarity, which eHarmony uses, or complementarity, which Chemistry.com and PerfectMatch.com use. Finkel proposes that what is more important than finding someone just like you, or who compliments you, is to find someone “with a personality that is conducive to relationships…someone who has relationship aptitude.”
What is relationship aptitude? It is related to emotional intelligence, and Finkel argues that it is the ability to develop and sustain intimacy and trust, and someone with high relationship aptitude has low levels of neuroticism. It is someone who has an agreeable character, and the ability to securely attach to others.
If you do meet someone online, don’t spend too much time talking virtually—a week or two at the most—then meet to see if you have similar relationship aptitude. Helen Fisher, noted anthropologist and consultant for Match.com, states that it is best to avoid long online exchanges. The only way to know if you have a future with a person is to meet face to face since “the only real algorithm for love is in the human brain.”
Going on the first date
The Gottman Institute asked their Facebook followers to submit their best first and second dates ideas. By far the most popular were walking and talking—either hiking, walking in a park, or strolling through the city. Most people felt that by walking, you take the pressure off each other to make eye contact and it feels more comfortable. People also mentioned that, for safety reasons, they preferred meeting in a public place if this was an early date and they didn’t know their date well. Other popular suggestions were mini golf, a picnic, perusing a farmers market, or going bowling.
When going on those first dates, there is a concept that is important to consider in dating, which will help you avoid the serial dating pitfall. Serial dating is when you go on many first dates, and seek out all your options rather than settling down or becoming exclusive.
University of Texas psychologists Lucy Hunt and Paul Eastwick discovered in a study that in most cases “unique value” is more important than “mate value.” Mate value is the average first impression of someone’s physical attributes and attractiveness. Unique value comes out slowly and over time through shared experiences, and by getting to know each other.
Typically, someone’s more distinctive traits take more time to know that is possible on a first date. This is why it’s important to consider getting to know someone slowly and perhaps go on a second or third date before moving on to your next first date with someone else.
If you’re nervous, ask questions
If you struggle with nerves on a first date, remember to be interested in the other person rather than trying to be interesting. One easy way to be interested in your date and to create better first date conversations is to ask open-ended questions. The Gottman Institute offers a free app called Gottman Card Decks, where you will find a whole deck of open-ended questions to ask your date, and you could memorize a few favorites before you walk out the door to a date.
You can also ask to follow up or “deepening” questions. For example, if they say they love their job, maybe ask “What is your favorite part of your job?” or “Tell me more about why you love it.” This shows that you are paying attention and are interested, which goes a long way in easing nerves for both people and helps the conversation flow.
Note: submissions close 31st August.
For more information, go to: huttcity.govt.nz/grounsellconsult
Cr Simon Edwards and I met yesterday with Council officers John Gloag and Damon Simmons. It was interesting to learn more about the genesis for the proposal, which is mainly driven by … View moreNote: submissions close 31st August.
For more information, go to: huttcity.govt.nz/grounsellconsult
Cr Simon Edwards and I met yesterday with Council officers John Gloag and Damon Simmons. It was interesting to learn more about the genesis for the proposal, which is mainly driven by complaints from residents on Groundsell Cres about people rat-running at speed (northbound).
As part of their work on upgrading the lights at Belmont, NZTA have proposed closing the on ramp. This is primarily because the on ramp doesn't meet NZTA's current standards - the merge lane is too short. However, as discussed below, this does not appear to have resulted in accidents other than at a normal level. Given this, it is by no means a done deal that the ramp will be closed and the views of residents are of paramount importance.
There have already been quite a number of submissions and/or emails from residents about the proposal, almost universally against, apart from Groundsell Cres residents.
It appears that traffic calming may be the appropriate end result, perhaps via a couple of speed humps.
It is important that residents carry on communicating and making their views known.
Over the last five years there have been seven accidents recorded in Groundsell Cres, including minor fender bender accidents, so the accident rate is low.
Accidents on SH2 appear to be largely tailgate type accidents or loss of control, mainly when braking it seems. There is no obvious connection to the on ramp with these accidents.
For more information, go to: huttcity.govt.nz/grounsellconsult
Please spread this information with interested residents.
Best regards
Cr Chris Milne
Councillor for the Western Ward, Hutt City Council
Phone 0274 422 708 // 04 586 3890
We're fizzing with excitement to have Dr. Michelle Dickinson (aka Nanogirl!), author of The Kitchen Science Cookbook, visiting Taita Library next week for some fun science activities and a book signing. Bring your favourite science questions!
Filled with great ideas to keep your children … View moreWe're fizzing with excitement to have Dr. Michelle Dickinson (aka Nanogirl!), author of The Kitchen Science Cookbook, visiting Taita Library next week for some fun science activities and a book signing. Bring your favourite science questions!
Filled with great ideas to keep your children busy and educated, The Kitchen Science Cookbook is suitable for children aged 4-14. Copies will be available to purchase on the day for the special price of $35 thanks to Paper Plus Lower Hutt or you can borrow it from Hutt City Libraries.
The Te Kāuru Upper Ruamāhanga Floodplain Management Plan Subcommittee and project team started reaching out to affected landowners through informal coffee group meetings. We are looking for feedback on whether Te Kāuru is heading in the right direction. We really appreciate the response of the … View moreThe Te Kāuru Upper Ruamāhanga Floodplain Management Plan Subcommittee and project team started reaching out to affected landowners through informal coffee group meetings. We are looking for feedback on whether Te Kāuru is heading in the right direction. We really appreciate the response of the community including Mia (pictured) – one of our cutest attendees at one of the coffee groups – for their feedback, questions and level of engagement.
Read more about Te Kāuru at www.tekauru.co.nz...
Celebrate National Poetry Day on Friday 24 August! We have a day packed full of poetry events for all ages and an extra event that sneaks in on Thursday 23 August.
Poetry Evening with Geraldine Brophy
Naenae Library - Friday 24 August, 6pm-7pm (FREE, everyone welcome.)
Join us for a fun … View moreCelebrate National Poetry Day on Friday 24 August! We have a day packed full of poetry events for all ages and an extra event that sneaks in on Thursday 23 August.
Poetry Evening with Geraldine Brophy
Naenae Library - Friday 24 August, 6pm-7pm (FREE, everyone welcome.)
Join us for a fun evening of poetry! Bring your favourite poem to read, share or discover new favourites. Participate in collaborative poetry-writing.
Families welcome. Feel free to bring a picnic dinner to enjoy at the library. Tea and coffee provided. Our MC for the night is actress and writer, Geraldine Brophy.
Reo Rangatahi
War Memorial Library - Friday 24 August, 1pm-2pm (FREE, Youth Event.)
Nau mai, haere mai! Do you write poetry? Want to share it with others?
This youth event is open to newbie writers and experienced poets. No pressure to share, just come along and meet some teens who write like you do!
Local writer and performer Freya Daly Sadgrove will be here to share her poetry too. Freya has a Masters in poetry from the International Institute of Modern Letters and her work has appeared in various publications, including Sweet Mammalian, Scum, Shabby Doll House and The Spinoff.
Poetry Writing Workshop
Wainuiomata Library - Friday 24 August, 4pm-5:30pm (FREE, ages 10-101.)
Have you ever wanted to write poetry? This workshop will cover genres of poetry, as well as give you help to start writing poems yourself!
Spaces are limited, bookings are essential. Email LibrariesEvents@huttcity.govt.nz to book in.
A Passionate Poet
War Memorial Library - Thursday 23 august, 6:30pm (FREE, everyone welcome)
Join Mary Death, the Director of Nursing at Te Omanga Hospice, as she shares stories of life as a palliative care nurse. Mary will also read her poetry (described as ‘scribbles’), enabling you to be touched by the beauty of life and of death.
Her passion, and compassion, guide her words to the page as she writes of the patients, their families and everyday things that bring her joy, and at times pain.
Wellington Curtain Bank returns to Wainuiomata! We make it easier for some communities to access our Curtain Bank — by coming to them.
Anyone with a Community Services Card or Super Gold Combo Card can go to Wainuiomata Community Centre to pick up a window measurement form, take it home to … View moreWellington Curtain Bank returns to Wainuiomata! We make it easier for some communities to access our Curtain Bank — by coming to them.
Anyone with a Community Services Card or Super Gold Combo Card can go to Wainuiomata Community Centre to pick up a window measurement form, take it home to fill out the details, then bring it back to complete the order. We then make the curtains and get them back to Wainuiomata for families to hang.
We're working with Wainuiomata Community Centre to bring the service to Wainui whanau from August 13 to 24. See more info about the Wellington Curtain Bank here.
For more info, you can contact the Curtain Bank on freephone 0508 78 78 24 x 705 or Wainuomata Community Centre on 04 564 5262.
Every Friday night between 9.30 pm and midnight, upwards of 70 teenagers and adults gather at the Walter Nash Centre in Taita for Twilight Basketball.
It began in February to give rangatahi/teenagers something fun and free to do on a Friday night. After the first nine weeks, 666 people had … View moreEvery Friday night between 9.30 pm and midnight, upwards of 70 teenagers and adults gather at the Walter Nash Centre in Taita for Twilight Basketball.
It began in February to give rangatahi/teenagers something fun and free to do on a Friday night. After the first nine weeks, 666 people had attended, with an average of 74 teenagers, parents, police, Council staff and volunteers turning up each time for some fierce competition and BBQed sauasages.
And not that anybody was eavesdropping, but from the overheard conversation file: one young guy to his mate: "I like coming here cos there’s always visitors like police, those guys in yellow (Safe City Ambassadors) and some other guys who don’t know how to play but they have fun." His mate replied: “yeah, we beat them nearly every time cos we know how to play, but it’s cool cos they want to play with us.’
Pop in and see what it's all about and you might find yourself on a court or cooking up some sausages for the hungry players. Pictured: some teenagers wearing playing bibs donated by Crest Clean, who also donate the sausages, bread and sauces every week.
Lower Hutt residents have until 3 September to have their say on how they elect their councillors and how they’re represented at ward and community level.
Council has prepared a draft proposal and is now calling for submissions.
Click the link below for more information about Council’s … View moreLower Hutt residents have until 3 September to have their say on how they elect their councillors and how they’re represented at ward and community level.
Council has prepared a draft proposal and is now calling for submissions.
Click the link below for more information about Council’s representation review and on how to make a submission.
Is anyone looking for dog boarding? I would like to offer boarding and doggie daycare for small dogs in private home. $25per night. Enquiries welcome on 0211598815 or on Neighbourly. Thanks Jan
Hutt Winter Festival are seeking keen volunteers to be involved in this upcoming fantastic local arts festival on Saturday 18th of August (and some help needed beforehand). Roles include assisting with workshops & events, being a HWF ambassador, and assisting with the setting up and packing … View moreHutt Winter Festival are seeking keen volunteers to be involved in this upcoming fantastic local arts festival on Saturday 18th of August (and some help needed beforehand). Roles include assisting with workshops & events, being a HWF ambassador, and assisting with the setting up and packing down. They are looking for practical and creative people who would like to be a part of this community event. If this sounds like you give us a call on 04 566 6786.
We have a number of different items for sale. Please call me on 0210431880 if you would like to view. These are all quality items from an adult-only, smoke free home.
1. Wicker chairs with matching table with glass top $140 ono
2. Four solid wood white dining chairs with high backs $250 ono
… View moreWe have a number of different items for sale. Please call me on 0210431880 if you would like to view. These are all quality items from an adult-only, smoke free home.
1. Wicker chairs with matching table with glass top $140 ono
2. Four solid wood white dining chairs with high backs $250 ono
3. Reclycled Mango solid wood dining table measures 1500 x 1500. Happily sits 8 people. (legs with come off for transportation) $550 ono.
4. One two-seater sofa and one single chair. Top quality Natuzzi leather. Just paid $1,300 to have these refurbished and repadded. Have paperwork. $1,500 ono
5. White solid wood wine rack with one drawer $50 ono
6. I also have remnants of a garage sale and if you are planning one and want extra items... happy to sell the lot (nice things) for $40.
Lower Hutt residents now have four weeks to have their say on how they elect their councillors and how they are represented at ward and community level.
Hutt City Council is reviewing how Lower Hutt residents are represented at Council, in preparation for the 2019 local body elections.
… View moreLower Hutt residents now have four weeks to have their say on how they elect their councillors and how they are represented at ward and community level.
Hutt City Council is reviewing how Lower Hutt residents are represented at Council, in preparation for the 2019 local body elections.
Council recently agreed to a draft proposal that would maintain the current way the Mayor and Councillors are elected and the present structure of community boards and panels. However, it proposes a review of community panels, which were established last year, in three years to gauge their effectiveness at representing their communities. The review was originally scheduled in six years’ time.
The final shape of representation arrangements in Lower Hutt will depend on formal public submissions over the next month.
To view the draft proposal and make a submission, go to huttcity.govt.nz/representation
Submissions close at 5pm on 3 September 2018. Council will then decide whether to amend its proposal or not. The final representation proposal will then be publically notified and people have the opportunity to lodge an appeal or objection.
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