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Anyone who's held down a job or three knows those employed as managers are often not ideally suited to the role. But your relationship with your boss has a massive impact on your work satisfaction, so how do you "manage up" successfully?
My first job in HR was working for Sofia, we… View moreAnyone who's held down a job or three knows those employed as managers are often not ideally suited to the role. But your relationship with your boss has a massive impact on your work satisfaction, so how do you "manage up" successfully?
My first job in HR was working for Sofia, we shared an office in an old run-down building on the outskirts of the CBD. We were working for a company selling photocopiers, but she treated it like we were saving lives. Sofia was always busy and the last to leave the office. She would give me a task, then check in five times before noon to make sure I was doing it her way. She never fully trusted anyone and often redid our work instead of accepting a different approach to her own, or she failed to delegate in the first place. It was exhausting, and I started dreading her emails.
One day, instead of waiting for her check-ins, I decided to send her a detailed progress update each morning. This overcommunication seemed to help her back off and trust me more.
A bad boss equals a bad job
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According to NZ Census data from 2023, the quality of the relationship with your manager has a big impact on overall job satisfaction. Of those who had a bad relationship with their manager, 42% were dissatisfied with their job. By comparison, only 2.8% of those who had a good relationship with their manager were dissatisfied.
Unfortunately, inexperienced and ineffective managers are all too common. In a Careerbuilder.com study 58% of managers said they hadn't received management training before they took the role. Most get promoted for being technically good at their jobs – the one they probably trained years to do. Then comes a promotion and they inherit a team, but when it comes to leading people, so few are adequately trained for the unique challenges that brings. That’s how we get bad bosses. But they're not all bad in the same ways. Below is a description of five types of lousy manager with suggested ways for you to "manage up" or work effectively with yours.
Five types of bosses - and how to work with them
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1. The over worker
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Sofia, who I described above, was an over worker – they're often perfectionists who seem driven by the need to prove something beyond the requirements of the job. The problem is they may also place these unrealistic expectations on their team. This type of manager will frequently micro-manage, involving themselves in tasks outside their remit, and they are definitely not role models when it comes to work/life balance.
How to deal with the over worker:
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This type of boss loves an update, the more regular the better. Get into the habit of letting them know what you're doing and how.
Also, although this boss hates to delegate, they could no doubt do with shedding some duties. So offer to take ownership of tasks and demonstrate your reliability. Eventually they'll be happy to be relieved of some of their load.
Set clear boundaries to avoid being overworked. Just because your boss's work/life balance is out of whack, doesn't mean yours must be. If you've worked an unreasonable number of hours, request (and expect) time in lieu. Turn off your phone after hours and on weekends.
2. The coaster and credit-taker
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The opposite of Sofia was Tim – a classic coaster.
Tim was never busy, was always up for a laugh and left the office at 3pm to play golf. He often "forgot" to do his share of projects, but somehow managed to take credit when things went well. The worst part? Senior management thought he was great because the team was delivering. Meanwhile, his team was stressed and drowning in work.
When his lead developer Hannah came into my office to explain her resentment, my advice was to make her own contributions visible – for example to CC key stakeholders in emails, making it clear who was doing what. Eventually, a senior director noticed this. Hannah came back one day to tell me they’d approached her directly to lead a project –bypassing Tim altogether.
How to deal with the coaster:
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Put your name on your efforts, document your workload, CC other staff members in emails and make sure it's clear who's doing the work in your team.
Politely but firmly set boundaries with your boss over how much of their workload you're prepared to take on.
3. My mate the boss
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When I was on my OE I worked for Janet, in a small team running a local government department. She’s still a friend today, she was so nice. That was the problem at work though, she was too nice. Janet was great to hang out with – we grabbed drinks on Fridays and had a lot of laughs. But at work, she was a pushover. There were two team members who regularly slacked off, missing deadlines, and she never called them out. That meant I had to pick up their workload.
How to deal with an overly matey boss:
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Don't share too much information about your personal life with this boss and subtly make it clear you don't need to know every intimate detail about theirs. (This doesn't mean you can't develop a friendship but, while they're your boss, keep some boundaries in place.)
Keep work drinks and social events professional – drinks are fine, benders not so much.
If problems arise, address them directly and professionally – don't pussyfoot around them the way you might with a friend.
4. Long-time leader
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This is a common type of boss, the one who’s just been in the job too long. They think experience is everything and if there was a badge that could state the years they’d been in the company, they'd be wearing it. They’ve seen everything and been everywhere and as a result they’re a bit bored now but still attached to the status their role brings.
John had been in the company for 25 years, and he loved reminding us of this. Every time I suggested a new approach, he'd shoot it down with, “We’ve always done it this way". It was frustrating because his old-school methods were slowing us down. He'd also lost his passion for the role, he was waiting to retire and as a result tended to have a negative view on everything which stole the joy from my workday too many times.
How to deal with the long-time boss:
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Show respect for their experience. This kind of boss is more likely to accept a new idea if it's presented in a respectful way that acknowledges their input. Find common ground to align your approach with their values.
Use data and logic to justify changes and new ideas. Your boss is less likely to shoot down facts than hunches.
5. The bully boss
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Our last boss type is the most dangerous and sadly still far too common in the workplace. This manager views you as a threat. Often they’ve been over-promoted or they just love the power and control that status brings and let their ego drive their leadership. Their behaviour could relate to lack of training, an innate lack of empathy or a lack of confidence – sometimes all three – and whatever the cause they make it your problem.
The manifestations of this attitude can take many forms, such as talking over you in meetings, dismissing your ideas, taking credit for your work, diminishing your contribution, constantly changing the goal posts so you can’t win, using aggression and force or just eroding your confidence day by day.
The bully boss is by far the hardest boss to work with.
How to deal with a bully boss:
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Always stay calm and professional in your interactions with them (even if they don't). Set firm boundaries regarding how you're prepared to be spoken to.
Document any inappropriate incidents and escalate to the next level of management if necessary.
Don't suffer in silence. Seek support if needed from your HR department or another manager.
Some general tips for every kind of boss
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Clear up the fog: One of the biggest sources of workplace misery is poor communication – workers unsure of what's expected of them leading to frustrated, dissatisfied managers.
If something is unclear, ask for clarification from your manager, repeat back to them what you think they want you to do and ask questions to check for understanding. Not all bosses are good at articulating what it is they expect of you.
Don't let resentment build: Clear up any miscommunication and make sure you air any niggles or issues before they become big.
Don't be a hothead: If you’re frustrated, always wait until you’ve calmed down before having the conversation (or sending the email).
Clearly, these tips work if you’ve got a boss who’s reasonable. We’re not always that lucky. If you’re being bullied the best option is to change that and seek help and support immediately. Otherwise we can find ourselves in situations that don't just impact our careers but affect our confidence and ultimately our health.
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Here's what you need to know about the Islamic holy month
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Muslims around the globe will begin observing the holy month of Ramadan, a period of deep spiritual reflection and celebration, in coming days.
Ramadan will see Muslims abstain from … View moreHere's what you need to know about the Islamic holy month
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Muslims around the globe will begin observing the holy month of Ramadan, a period of deep spiritual reflection and celebration, in coming days.
Ramadan will see Muslims abstain from food during daylight hours and pray before breaking their fast at sundown alongside family and friends.
Here's a look at when the holy month begins, the importance of fasting, and why the date changes from one year to another.
When does Ramadan end?
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Lasting for 29 or 30 days, Ramadan 2025 will end around March 30, with the celebratory days of Eid al-Fitr estimated to start around 30 March, again with a possible difference of a couple of days.
What is Ramadan?
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Ramadan is the most sacred month of the year for Muslims.
It remembers the month the Qur'an was first revealed to the prophet Mohammed.
During its 29 to 30 days, Muslims abstain from food and drink, including water, every day from dawn to sunset.
When the sun sets, adherents to the faith break their fast with a communal meal called Iftar, usually with family or friends.
The fast is traditionally broken by eating dates, to emulate how the prophet Mohammed broke his fast.
During Ramadan, Muslims are also encouraged to do good deeds and abstain from sinful acts, while refecting on their faith and developing positive habits to be brought forward when the holy month ends.
Why do Muslims fast during Ramadan?
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The practice of fasting during Ramadan serves spiritual and social purposes.
According to Islamic Relief Australia, Muslims believe Ramadan is the month in which the first verses of the Qur'an were revealed to the prophet Mohammed more than 1,400 years ago.
The fast entails abstinence from eating, drinking, smoking, and sexual relations to achieve greater "taqwa", or consciousness of God.
It is one of the five pillars of Islam.
When is Eid al-Fitr?
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Eid al-Fitr or the "festival of breaking the fast" marks the end of Ramadan.
It is likely to take place on the evening of Sunday, March 30 depending on the sighting of the moon.
It is celebrated as a time for family and friends to come together with communal prayer, gift-giving and dressing in new clothes.
Eid al-Fitr happens in the first three days of Shawwal, the 10th month of the Islamic Calendar.
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Do you think it is inconsiderate to park directly outside a neighbour's house on the road? Or do you think street … View moreSome people are frustrated by their neighbours or neighbour's friends parking on the street outside their house. This means they have to park further away themselves.
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A beautiful Auckland day so I decided on the Harbour Bridge jump.
A slight calculation error on their part... I was supposed to just touch the ripples of the water, not drink a few litres of salt water. 😬
A wonderful buzz, none the less. Another box ticked. 🥂
High Tea at Alberton
The popular high tea service at Alberton in Mt Albert is being held this year on Sunday 30 March and 6 April 2025, at 2pm. Join us to enjoy a traditional tea service served in the atmospheric ballroom or out on the lovely verandah at this much-loved heritage site.
The … View moreHigh Tea at Alberton
The popular high tea service at Alberton in Mt Albert is being held this year on Sunday 30 March and 6 April 2025, at 2pm. Join us to enjoy a traditional tea service served in the atmospheric ballroom or out on the lovely verandah at this much-loved heritage site.
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Own your Online website is part of the New Zealand government's work to raise understanding of cyber security issues for individuals and businesses, they have shared a message about a new scam that is targeting Kiwis.
Own Your Online say:
We are seeing a significant increase in reporting … View moreOwn your Online website is part of the New Zealand government's work to raise understanding of cyber security issues for individuals and businesses, they have shared a message about a new scam that is targeting Kiwis.
Own Your Online say:
We are seeing a significant increase in reporting of ‘Hi Mum’ scams.
A ‘Hi Mum’ scam is a scam where a random message from an unknown number is sent to you claiming to be from a close relative, usually your son or daughter.
The fake relative often claims their phone is broken – which is why they’re contacting you from a different number – and will ask you to do something, sometimes asking you to help them with a payment or to do something by clicking a link.
If you receive one of these, don’t click the links. Try to contact your relative using their normal number which is probably still working.
You can also report these scam messages by forwarding free to Department of Internal Affairs on 7726
Check out Own Your Online scam checklist here.
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Just start with a hello, and say hope you’re well. There’s nothing gentle about gentle reminders. And the email never finds you well. Nothing annoys working professionals more than emails with vague flatteries, unnecessary niceties or even passive-aggressive follow ups. “As per my last … View moreJust start with a hello, and say hope you’re well. There’s nothing gentle about gentle reminders. And the email never finds you well. Nothing annoys working professionals more than emails with vague flatteries, unnecessary niceties or even passive-aggressive follow ups. “As per my last email…” is a sure way for your email to be left on hold.
There are several ‘Dos and Don’t’s’ when writing a professional email. “Emails can be irritating. First of all, you can’t see the person. Often, you might not know the person. So, it’s already very hard to connect with someone you can’t see or don’t even know. So a lot depends on the tone of the email, and how they explain the context,”.
Remember, a working professional is already swamped with a million emails a day; a vague, generic, aggressive or meaningless one filled with false niceties will either elicit an angry, irritated response, or just be left unread. Or, possibly, sent to trash.
Emails can be irritating. A lot depends on the tone of the person in the email and how they explain the context. They need to be empathetic to connect with the other person. For example, they can start an email by saying I know you must be busy...
Skip the dears, dearests and dearie
“No one’s so dear to you, you aren’t writing to your grandmother,” “I’ve deleted emails from people who addressed me as dearest,”. She has been called dearie too, much to her shock. “I’ve had to remind people to not address me like that,”.
So, avoid the over-familiarity. No one’s your lovely, dear or honey at work. “I can’t stand over-familiarity from people that I do not know,”, an American freelancing writer. “I dislike it when strangers write emails addressing me as ‘lovely’. It’s like ‘Hey lovely, thought I will check in…’ and the email is followed by some irrelevant announcement,” Be professional, friendly, but without going overboard.
Be specific in your subject line
For all you know, your recipient might be subjected to a flood of emails a day. They don’t have time to read each email. They’ll probably just look at the subject and see if it’s worth their time. If they don’t find it so, it usually remains unread or goes to trash. So keep the subject line short, Get to the point. Many people won’t have the patience to read an email with a blank subject or something vague or generic. “I wouldn’t read an email with the subject ‘just checking in’ or ‘greetings’. So, keep your subject short; let it capture the essence of your email, like a headline," Otherwise, you and your email are ignored.
The email never finds you well
Yes, we know the emails that begin with this line: ‘Hope this email finds you well.’ “It does not sound sincere. The first thing that comes to mind when reading it is, ‘Okay, what do you want?” which focuses on leadership content strategies. “It sounds rather clichéd, as if you really don’t care what’s happening with them, but you’re just determined to get your work done,” Just say hello, and hope you're well.
Skip the slang
Don’t wander and confuse the reader. “You don’t have to begin with a chatty, over-friendly conversation before getting into the conversation, especially if you have emailed them several times a day,” “Skip the slang, excessive punctuation and emoticons,”
A little empathy doesn’t hurt
Emails can be a frustrating form of communication for various reasons, one being that you can’t see the person. “You need to show a little empathy in your emails, so that they can at least have a sense of your tone and mood,” If you know they’re busy, you can use words like ‘I know you must be busy’… and give them clear context, of what you need. Keep it short, simple and basic, and that’s the best way to not annoy someone.
In this form of written communication, you need to establish some form of trust with the other person, he says.
“Always think, how would I feel when reading this,”
There’s no point following up on a previous email, when the other person doesn’t remember what you’re following up on.
Explain your request again, so that the person doesn’t have to sift through a long email thread and see what you’re referring to. “If that person didn’t respond to your email the first time, resending the same message is probably not going to get better results the second time.”
Avoid being pushy and passive-aggressive: No gentle reminders
Don’t mark your emails with ‘URGENT’ (in upper case mind you), when you know, it isn’t urgent. Moreover, don’t do it just in the hope that you are capturing someone’s attention. “I’ve received emails from people saying, ‘Hey, I haven’t heard from you for a week, so I guess you’re not interested. Well, in case you are, let me know’,” “Such emails just trigger you into a rage, or you just delete them and never respond,”
Also, avoid ‘gentle’ reminders. There’s no such thing as a gentle reminder. “Everyone knows that a reminder is a call to action. Adding gentle to it, just sounds more passive-aggressive and leaves the other person aggravated,”“In terms of tone of voice, always be warm and approachable – not cold, impersonal, and definitely not patronising or passive-aggressive,”.
Think before you ‘cc’
“The point of cc’ing someone is that they’re kept in the loop. That person already has context. If they don’t, then don’t cc them. It’s simple. There’s no prize for the number of people you can stuff into an email. Put yourself in their shoes, how would you like being copied in an email that’s completely out of the blue? Exactly,”.
Don’t copy others on an email when there’s no need
Moreover, don’t email several people in the hope that they will forward it to the person who is supposed to receive the email. This is considering the scenario that the person hasn’t responded. In all probability, they will email the same person and filled their inbox with the same email. Nothing annoys a person more.
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